Sky is the Limit For Unshackled Women


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The world of women has always been oscillating, especially in our sub-continent. Recorded history and sociology vouch for the fact that women were enlightened and emancipated in the best possible manner in the early Vedic ages. Conditions regressed in the later periods, only to deteriorate steadily. Women were weaned from the right to education, equality, economics and even dignity.

Foreign invasions and inland political insecurities which prompted the use of the purdah system caught on to the point of shrouding our sisters in some parts of the country till date.

Dowry system which was paved with the intention of passing on the rightful fraction of the family heirlooms and property took demonic proportions which started smouldering and singeing young women in their marriages. The rigid caste system, polygamy and the system of honour killing almost decimated the status of women to non-entities.

Our society slowly fell into a decadent pattern that proved to be a dreadful nightmare for women in particular. So much so that even five centuries ago, there were formulae for bringing up children. A separate set of rules for sons and daughters. By the time they were responsible young adults, they were prepared to slip into their slots and play their part within and outside their households. This methodology worked quite well through several centuries.

Several centuries later, the fairer sex stepped out of their hearths and homes pursuing education and professions. They did face teething problems till they emerged successfully. Then the trend became an accepted norm.

Young women blossomed at every given opportunity while their less accomplished sisters experienced the much needed exposure. This encouraged them to dream for a bigger platform for their daughters. If this phenomenon of getting better with each passing generation were to become a reality, then the world we live in will transform into Utopia.

Alas such is not the case. Parenting has become a challenge. Despite all the talks and convictions about creating a level playing ground for children of either gender, the harsh truth remains contrary. To be fair to parents of our sub-continent, many of them do walk their talk. There are lakhs of couples who have parented only one girl child and have helped her achieve wisely and well. Yet, sadly the fact remains that many of these young women are considered to be round pegs in square holes because the world at large openly or secretly consider them to be second class citizens.

Freedom for girl child

More than ever, there is a serious threat to the security and freedom of the girl child, especially in urban set ups. We are living in times where stories of molestation, rape and the fairer sex being subjected to indignities have started making headlines almost on a daily basis. While rationalists would like to smother this news content as the hype created by media, we must also remember that there can be no smoke without fire.

Let us face facts, looks like we have reached a stage where debauchery has begun to become a byword in our country. At one glance it is obvious that there is something essentially wrong in the way we bring up our children. It is not just about gender inequality which begins at the foetal stage.

The health and education sectors which make a staple contribution during the formative years wallow in corruption. The families and immediate society which moulds the child’s thinking and shapes its character unthinkingly imposes its biased convictions and baseless theories which undermine its personality in the long run.

Intrinsic human values like truth and compassion have given way to superficiality and wanton display of materialism. Certificates and documents have substituted learning and imbibing knowledge. The global village which leaves us spoilt for choices have made us blind to the positive qualities of our vicinity. There seems to be no censor over the entertainment sector which is dishing out brain candy and promoting medieval beliefs and superstitions. The scenario is bleak.

Despite this drawback, it is heartening to note that quite a decent number of the fairer sex in our cities have not only managed to survive but also thrive. If women can stand up against all odds and prove their mettle, just imagine, how much more they can achieve if they are unshackled of obstacles? The sky will be the limit!

Even God Helps Only Those Who Help Themselves


29th July 2015, S Radha Prathi

When one walks along the long journey of life, it becomes apparent that we cannot be in control of our lives all the time. We may come across unforeseen obstacles in the form of natural calamities, accidents, death et al which can completely change the course of our actions. Sometimes our best laid plans may end up in shambles. Our dream projects may be washed down the drain. There are times when we may have to simply change our pattern of life. These aberrations usually prompt us to question the need to lead an organised existence. After all, who has seen tomorrow? Besides, it is an accepted truth that no one can change destiny. Whenever we are caught wondering about the uncertainty of our lives, it will do us a world of good to ruminate over a story from the Panchatantra.

Once, a couple of fishermen came to a riverbank around sunset. When they scouted the waters they realised that it was rich with fish. They planned to cast a net for them the following day. Some of the fish happened to overhear the conversation. They decided to migrate to another water body overnight. They spread the word about their plans in the waters they lived. Some of their brethren were ready to follow course.  Some of them approached an elderly fish called Yadbhavishya who was also a philosopher of sorts for guidance. When Yadbhavishya heard about their plans, he said that everything that happens in life is predestined and individuals can do very little about it. Every living being who is born into existence will ultimately die at some point of time.  He added that death is most definitely the final point in everyone’s life and therefore there is really no point in safeguarding life. The followers of Yadbhavishya decided to stay back and accept their fate.  Many other fish migrated despite his counsel. The following day, the fishermen cast their net as planned. The believers in destiny contemplated on the irony of fate as they breathed their last as they were being drawn out of water. It is true that they would all have to die at some time or another as pointed out by their philosopher. Nevertheless, they could have extended their lives to some extent, if they had taken a practical recourse. There is really no point in becoming willing scapegoats and sitting ducks in the name of being submissive to our destinies. We must be proactive, for it is said that even god will help only those who help themselves.